Reflecting on a Year Away: A Journey Toward Balance and Fulfillment
Just over a year ago, I made the difficult decision to step away from the financial security and prestige of an executive role in mining. I left behind the Bay Street office with its stunning lake views, the artwork adorning the walls, and the closet full of blazers and high heels. I stepped away from a brilliant team with big visions and an incredible assistant who kept my life seamlessly organized. It was a challenging and painful decision and, in some ways, a real blow to my ego, but change was necessary.
Over the past year, I've embarked on a journey of detoxing from corporate burn-out culture, leading to a life that feels complete and more balanced than ever. Here’s what I’ve learned:
The Panic of Not Being Burnt Out Is Real: My body and mind were so accustomed to operating at full capacity that the absence of constant stress left me disoriented. It took months for my nervous system to settle and for me to feel normal again. As someone who prides myself on being 'high capacity', I didn't realize the level of stress I was carrying and living every day until it was gone.
The Power of Saying No: I learned the importance of protecting my time and energy. Saying no to things that did not align with my personal or professional goals helped me preserve time for family and friends and reduce unnecessary travel. It also gave my brain the ability to dream, create, and rest.
Financial Independence: It took time to detach my sense of worth from my job title and salary. I discovered that money can indeed be made outside of the corporate sphere and that my value is not tied to a position, or people's perception of what role I held.
Working Smarter: I've embraced working with projects and groups that resonate with my core values. I've learned that it's okay to walk away from situations and opportunities that feel misaligned or unfulfilling. I have one life to live, and I am committed to living it to the fullest.
This journey has led me to a place of daily joy and peace, where gratitude replaces panic. I am able to contribute to the mining industry, leveraging my influence in ways that align with my newfound values, and support women who are in need of rest and community.
While there are aspects of corporate life I miss, such as leading teams and setting strategies, I am not willing to compromise what I’ve gained this past year to return to just any role. My life now includes spending more time than ever with my children and husband, growing Femina Collective, starting a private investment club, and supporting initiatives like IRMA. These aren't passive activities; they are active choices that bring immense value to my life.
Its hard to hear so many women describe their overwhelming busyness, placing their roles above their health, families, and friends. I'm here to tell you—it doesn't have to be that way. Life can be rich and fulfilling on all fronts, and my last year is a testament to that possibility. Here’s to more women finding their path to balance and fulfillment in whatever role and capacity gives the most joy and fulfillment.
Listen on The Rebuild Podcast: Carmen and Beth discuss the positive outcomes of going through a rebuilding period in their lives. They share their personal experiences and insights on how to navigate a rebuild and create success. They emphasize the importance of self-trust, intentionality, and exploring desires. They also discuss the freedom and control that comes with aligning with one's purpose and building a business.
